With that said, sometimes we see movies that just impact us in such a great and profound way. Sally and I recently watched "Martian Child" with John and Joan Cusack. The movie's description is:
The romantic drama Martian Child stars John Cusack as a recently widowed science fiction writer who forms an unlikely family with a close friend (Amanda Peet) and a young boy he adopts that claims to be from Mars. The new couple ignores some sage parenting advice from the widower’s sister (Joan Cusack) and gets more than they bargained for when a series of strange occurrences lead them to believe that the child’s claim may be true.While this description may appeal to the audiences across the land, it wasn't particularly stunning to either of us. It wasn't until we spoke to others from our adoption classes that gave the movie rave reviews. Boy were they right! More accurately, this is a story of a child who has lost everyone dear to him. He has created a world for himself so that no one can hurt him again; his claim/world is that he is from Mars. He is teased, ridiculed, deemed un-adoptable by the adoption agency until John Cusack's character enters the picture. From there, you'll have to see the movie.
What so many people don't seem to realize is that while this movie is based on a short story of science fiction, it really touches on an aspect of reality that many in this world don't want to face; there are children that are up for adoption that "nobody" wants. There are over 150,000 children in the foster care system in the United States alone right now; many of which are up for adoption. Each of these children have been through some traumatic experience that led them into the care of the foster system. It could be abandonment, neglect, physical or sexual abuse, drugs and/or alcohol, or a number of other things. These kids, much like the "Martian Child" cope in very different ways to what has happened and it takes a special person for each child. Sometimes it takes something a little alien to these kids to bring them out of their shell. The alien? Love.
From the biblical point of view, we are to take care of widows and orphans (James 1:27). Interestingly, many proclaiming Christians want nothing to do with these "Martian Children." We come up with excuses like, "what about our other children" or "now isn't a good time in our life" or "others have had problems with their adopted child, I don't want that" or the most absurd comment, "they are damaged goods." These "damaged goods" are just like this "Martian Child," little children - human beings - who have had to face more in fewer years than most people will in their lifetime. They are seeking love and approval and will create a world in which they can get it. Some may act out as even negative attention is attention. Some will over compensate by trying to do everything for you so that you will give them attention. And some will create a story so that they can deal with their past. That is the "Martian Child's" story.
Now, adoption isn't right for everyone, or so we've been told. But let me guide you to three things. First, read the Bible. For those who have put their faith and trust in Jesus Christ as their Savior, they have been adopted into God's family as children of God (Romans 8:15, 8:23, 9:4; Galatians 4:5, 5:10; Ephesians 1:5). God never has abandoned those whom He has adopted and commands us to care for the orphans (which many of these children are). Second, watch this movie. It will give you a new perspective on adoption and how these children really are human and not just "damaged goods" that "nobody wants." Another pretty good, although not as sentimental, movie is the newer Disney's "Tarzan" and "Meet the Robinsons." Yes, they are cartoons, but they are pretty good. Lastly, I want to point you to a book called "The One Factor: How One Changes Everything."
Are you that special person for that "Martian Child" and you don't know it? Ask in prayer, and consider how you can be "The One" to make the difference in life of a child.
